But my height has only been as much of a problem as I’d let it be.Over the years, I’ve dated and slept with women of all heights, ranging from 5’1″ to six-foot tall amazons.Look, I get it: you’ve been getting Oompa Loompa jokes since forever.You’ve been called midget, Tiny Tim, Grumpy and all the other names.The problem with this is that the sudden color change – from white to brown to blue – creates a visual interruption.The eye doesn’t travel smoothly down your profile; the sudden change cuts you in half, truncating your torso and skewing your proportions.A shitty attitude, whether angry and aggressive or defeated and negative, will nuke any chance of sex or love faster than telling them that you eat live puppies. A short man with confidence is far more attractive than a tall guy without it.The attitude that your height is a defect and nobody could possibly love a short man is attraction poison. Yes, you may have to fake it for a while as you unlearn the bullshit that’s been shredding your ego.
They don’t have to be perfectly monochrome – you don’t need to dress head to toe in black, for example – but keeping things within the same color-scheme helps the eye track over your body without stopping.When you can build presence, women won’t remember you as that short man at the party.They’ll remember you as that incredibly charming guy who made them feel like he got them in a way nobody else did.But hey, that’s cold comfort when women are putting “six feet tall, minimum” in their dating profiles and your friends all call you “Short Round”.The thing is, as with many other masculine insecurities, this is predominantly in our heads. Worse, I’m the shortest of all my friends who range from 5’1o” on the short side, to 6’7″ on the tall side.Presence is, simply, your ability to command people’s attention.